There are two ways things turn out:
- You lose a thing, you replace it with something else, it’s better than what you lost, you’re happy.
- You lose a thing, it doesn’t disappear when it’s replaced, not having it becomes as much of a presence as having it was.
You’re told the things you can’t forget about are meant to be in your mind – the simple aftermath of having loved somebody so deeply: you hold onto a someone and someday that was supposed to be yours.
We are told to believe that not being able to let go of the things we lose does nothing but prove how much we loved them in the first place, and I don’t think this is true.
Living with a ghost, crafting an idea that you need to hold on to – to fill a space or insecurity with – is using the idea of someone to fix something about yourself.
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